The real reasons why people are always late

I know them. You also know them: People who are forever late. It seems that no matter what the situation or event is, they just can’t seem to make it on time. Some use a litany of excuses to justify their chronic tardiness, but the worst offenders are not only comfortable with consistently being late, they also expect you to accept their lateness.

His behavior is not only selfish, but also disrespectful.

People who are always late rob us of the most precious and valuable asset we have: our time. The time you dedicate to waiting for someone to arrive is time that can be better used by doing a myriad of things; productive stuff indeed. When you are inactive it is because your time is considered less valuable than the time of the person you are waiting for. After all, you’re going to be honored in their company, so waiting is a small price (and inconvenience) to pay for such an enormous pleasure, right?

The truth of the matter is that no one, no matter how punctual they are, is always punctual. This is due to circumstances beyond our control, such as a massive car backlog on the freeway, being taken hostage during a bank robbery, being trapped in an electric light rail vehicle while traveling during a power outage. tardiness happens rarelynot occasionally, to the most punctual people.

When punctual people are late, they have reasons why they are late; There are no excuses why they never show up on time. There is a difference. The person who is always late can realistically attribute his annoying tardiness to one of several causes:

1.) Getting anywhere on time requires preparation (the process of leaving point A), departure (from point A), and travel time (from point A to point B). Everything is oriented towards a timely arrival at point B.

The vast majority of chronically late tardies arrive late at their destinations because they do not plan properly (which also means taking driving/commuting conditions into account when estimating travel time), thus delaying their departure time ; making them so late.

Not being properly prepared, or experiencing an interruption in the preparation process, also results in tardiness. Although planning is the solution for many, it is complicated when people lack organizational skills.

Only the preparation process requires organization. (People with small children should be careful.) It must be done the night before. Selecting your wardrobe and items needed for the next day gets you closer to leaving when you wake up. Failure to do so prolongs the preparation process and may delay your departure. Did the end work? You are late, despite driving too fast in an attempt to make up for lost time during the trip.

2.) Then there is the number two late offender. The worst kind. They just don’t give a damn about being on time. Many people (narcissists) like how it feels to have others eagerly awaiting their arrival. It makes them feel special and, in fact, empowered. Some even believe (although most won’t admit it) that the party (or whatever it is) doesn’t start until they arrive.

When others are expecting them, it feeds their ego (or arrogance). That’s why many celebrities like to be “elegantly late.” It is proof positive (for them) that they operate under different guidelines and are not held to the same social standards; therefore, they do not have to extend the same social courtesy.

Ironically, the worst offenders (even celebrities) can, and often do, show up for certain appointments on time, such as court hearings or plane flights. when necessary. This suggests that punctuality and priority go hand in hand.

Curing the tardiness of the worst offender is obviously a more daunting task. The thing to remember about people who are always late is that they are well aware of their problem; and their problem is not for you to solve.

What do you do when you find yourself in the undesirable position of repeatedly waiting for someone? Go away. That’s how it is. Set a grace period of, say, 7 to 15 minutes and head back home, work, or wherever you need to go.

Once you’ve made it clear that you value your own time, and that you won’t waste it, you can restore the balance of respect in your relationship with your tardy friend and hopefully send them a strong, clear signal that always being late isn’t an issue. well, and it is not acceptable.