Why does my husband hide things from me? 5 possible causes

Human beings have between our ears the most complex thing in the physical universe: the human brain. Together, the brain, body, and soul make up us as human beings. Given the complexity of our minds, it’s not surprising that our behavior is sometimes surprising, or even bewildering.

Bizarre and bizarre behaviors abound in each of us, sane and a little crazy alike. The fact is, people just do weird things from time to time.

One of those behaviors is being in the habit of hiding things from your spouse. It is possible that she has discovered that her husband is hiding information, money or things from her. What could it be? The suspense may be driving you crazy.

If you’re wondering, “Why is my husband hiding things from me?” here are 5 possible causes:

1. Your husband may have a documented neurosis:

A neurosis is a mental and emotional disorder that is not as severe as its distant cousin, psychosis. However, a neurosis can affect a person’s behavior in many ways.

In her book “Self Analysis” (1942), the psychoanalytic theorist Karen Horney developed one of the best-known theories of neurosis. In her theory, a neurosis stems from someone having basic anxiety about interpersonal relationships.

In particular, among the top 10 neurotic needs he ranked were two that sound very consistent with a tendency to habitually hide things: #3: the need to remain discreet and unnoticed, and #9: the need to exhibit a “loner” mentality. in order to distance yourself from others and not feel dependent on other people.

Whether or not your husband has a bona fide neurosis is something only a good psychoanalyst can answer for certain, but if you feel that his concealing behavior is more innocent than malicious, consider this possibility seriously.

2. You have a psychological need to keep parts of your life private:

Aside from a neurosis, but psychological in origin, your husband may have simply grown up in a very private family where everyone kept things separate and private. If his hiding behavior isn’t just a recent phenomenon, but something he’s done more or less since you’ve known him, this is also a strong candidate for the reason he does what he does.

3. He suspects you’ve been pulling away lately:

If you think about it, the tendency to hide things has the effect of creating a sense of separation and reduces feelings of closeness. If your husband has felt lately that you’ve been withdrawing emotionally from him, he may be doing it as a form of self-defense to protect himself from being hurt by you.

4. Suspicion of you:

Do you feel that you and your husband have a trusting relationship? If he is suspicious of you for any reason, he may be trying to cover his tracks to protect himself from the unknown you are doing.

5. He’s finding ways to distance himself from you:

Now, let’s move on to a possible reason that has more to do with your husband hiding things because he has something to hide: your husband may be making plans to leave you or he may be having an affair. Of course, this is by far the least desirable reason out of the 5, but if the others don’t check out, then you have to face the possibility that this is the case.

Consider these 5 possible causes of your husband hiding things from you. If you think the reason has to do with points 3-5 above, you need to get to work on your relationship right away. Do whatever it takes to get help to get things back on track in her world.