why did your wife leave you

What do women want? This question has plagued the mind of man since the dawn of man, but the answer is not as complicated as one might think.

In any relationship, or in any dynamic between two human beings, one of the parties involved always cares less than the other. It’s never a 50/50 split, even if you think it is.

If your wife left you it’s because you cared more. Straight up. Now, I’m not saying you should stop caring about the woman in your life. This is not what I am saying at all, in fact, for any relationship to be healthy, love and trust must be at the base. But you must remember that you are a man, and in order for a man to keep the woman he loves, he must CONTINUE TO BE A MAN.

But what is a man? If you think a man is someone who graces the cover of Gucci magazine with jet-black eyebrows, a six-pack, and a stern look in his eyes, then you are a victim of social conditioning and will never keep a woman around.

A woman does not want you to make her the center of your life. The sentence is so important that you should go back and read it a second time, a third time, maybe even a fourth time. It is the cornerstone of masculinity and the ultimate secret to building a strong long-term relationship.

I know what you’re thinking: “Today I made the football game the most important thing and my girlfriend started yelling at me, how can this be true?”

A woman will always try to fight it in the moment. She is a woman. She loves to dance in emotion, even if that emotion is negative, as long as she feels, she is living. She will also try to make your life hell at times by feeling all this emotion, but your job as a man is to make something else the center of your life so you can stay stable. That’s all she wants in the end. So that you stay stable while she dances with excitement. Many men say “women are crazy, they are never logical, why can’t they just be normal?” My answer is always the same, “then go out with a man!” Because women will never change. The moment you accept that women will always be emotional, and they are, is the moment you start living your life as a man. You stop judging him, you stop criticizing him, and instead of trying to make her happy all the time, you go on living your life and she can keep you company.

So what should be at the center of your life? I suggest a life purpose, a grand goal, a dedication to endless self-improvement. That does not mean that you should dedicate everything to your goal and forget about your woman, instead, if you have a purpose in your life, then her emotional dance will not discourage you. But she will try to mislead you. This is important to know. She will constantly test and prod you to see if you really are made of that thing called manhood.

I know all of this is easier said than done. But here are FOUR TIPS to help you in your search for your lost manhood.

Pick a target, any target: Stop waiting for lightning to strike your mind and for your being to ignite in some sacred purpose. This will never happen. Just pick a target and start heading towards it, no matter what it is. I don’t care if it’s to learn how to be a master dog groomer. Any path that centers your thoughts and actions is enough to align you with masculinity and for your woman to start respecting you again.

When she gets crazy, just relax: The worst thing you can do as a man is fall into the emotional dance with her. She doesn’t want you to get caught up in her emotional maelstrom because then you’ll both be swept down the river without an oar. She wants to dance and she wants you to keep the boat steady. The next time she starts to get emotional, just relax and enjoy her for who she is, that she is an emotional creature.

Let me miss you: Don’t text, call, and see her constantly. She gives the gift of missing you sometimes. He would also add the point of not being naked in front of her all the time. After sex, many guys just walk around the house naked, then constantly show it off. It’s great to be confident with your twig and berries, but you want to leave a bit of mystery in the relationship.

Drop the ego: You are a normal human being. I know you might think that your problems are unique, but they are not. If your wife has a genuine problem to discuss with you, listen to her. Leave your ego at the door and let go of the need to be right, because that is a difficult battle to win against emotion. As Tyler Durden once said, “You are not a unique snowflake.”

Women are not complicated. They get complicated when we keep making them logical and rational beings. But this is not what women are. The women are amazing, emotional, beautiful and so much fun. So stop trying to put them in a box and start living your goals. The moment you make your goals the most important thing, the woman in your life will start to smile a lot more and unpack that suitcase.

Cheers,

Saxon