What is the number 5 reason why you will never find love?

The number 5 reason you can’t find love is because you lack relationship skills. While you think you developed them, most haven’t.

Everyone knows that you hire an engineer to do engineering work. And you hire an accountant to do accountant jobs. Yet when it comes to the most important job of our lives, we hire people with no training or education.

The most important person in your life is your spouse. They affect every aspect of your life. When they come into our lives, all they have is trial and error. Would you hire a neurosurgeon who learns the trade from him by trial and error and no medical school?

When we fail in a relationship or test, we experience in the life of another person. When that ends in divorce, we go to another. It’s almost like we’re doing experimental brain surgery on every intimate partner. We wonder why divorce is so mentally debilitating. And your employer still has to pay you. Ha!!!!

Most say that communication is the most important part of a relationship. Within communication, listening is the most important thing. Within a relationship, there will be misunderstandings and disagreements. How do they handle conflicts? If you can’t handle conflict, all relationships will be difficult for you. What things do you do to enrich your partner’s life? Do you know how to develop intimacy? Or do you see it as the other person’s work? Can you talk about something? Or can you only discuss things that make you happy or comfortable? Do you know how to negotiate? Are you open and available to your partner? Or do you hide behind a brick wall?

There is a distinction between being interesting and being interested. Do you know the difference? Knowing that difference will dictate your interactions with your partner. Most of the people want to show how interesting they are. To do that, you never have to listen to the other person. You just talk ad nauseam.

Being interested requires that you fully understand the other. That means lots of listening and follow-up questions.

By the way, it’s not a man’s job to conduct a conversation. It is the responsibility of both consenting adults. So for all the women out there who think it’s their job to just sit there and let the man do the talking, they are displaying relationship incompetence. Don’t complain when you’re not treated like an adult. It takes 2 for things to work.

How do you train yourself to create good relationships? Have you considered mental training?