The 3 keys to communication

Most men think that there is a magic word that they can say to talk to a woman. They believe there is some kind of David Copperfield magic spell to make a woman magically talk. On the Internet there are a million bad lines to pick up. There are guys who teach communication systems that are so complicated that you think you are learning Chinese.

Although there is no such “magic word”, there are three keys to communicating with a woman that always work. This is not something transcendental. This stuff is so simple. . . These are things you already know. People teach the most complex approaches to meeting women, and what I’m about to teach you is the simple approach that has worked every time I or one of my students have used it.

Imagine something so simple that every time you’re talking to a woman, you’ll not only know what to say, but you’ll be able to get out of your head and enjoy the conversation with her. So here are the three simple steps to communicate with a woman:

Step 1 – Watch what you are doing – Take the example of a woman standing behind you in line at the supermarket unloading her purchases onto the conveyor belt. What are you putting on the conveyor belt? If he’s behind you in line at Starbucks, what is he ordering? What is she eating? If she’s alone in a bar texting her friends, look at these things.

Look at everything he’s doing. Instead of thinking about what to say, allow the environment to give you something to say. Most men think of something to say that is so random that it makes absolutely no sense in a woman’s mind. Women actually walk around and make fun of these guys and say, “You’re not going to believe what he actually came to me with and said.”

Step 2: Act on the Observation: In order to act on the Observation correctly, you need to open it up and evoke a feeling. For example, if a woman orders a double espresso at Starbucks, the first thing that comes to mind is often the topic of conversation.

Let me ask you a question: what do you think of when you see a woman ordering a double espresso at 8:00 in the morning? A typical guy might say “Do you like coffee?” which leads to a yes or no answer. A man who is 100% present and supervising what she is doing ahead of time will look at her and say, “Hard night last night?” or “Do you have a busy day and need to start the day with energy?” What you’re trying to do when you’re talking to her about something she’s doing is stay inside her head and stay in her current thought process.

It’s much easier to have a conversation based on things you’re already experiencing. When you experience something, you are feeling something. A woman will share something that is already going on in her head.

Another example could be if you are standing in a bar and you see a woman texting someone while she is standing there alone. You can walk up and make a guess by saying “Is your friend late?” which is probably the friend because she’s not going out alone. This in turn will open up a conversation based on feelings and emotions.

Women are emotional creatures. They want to bond with you emotionally. They don’t want to bond with you randomly. This brings us to Step 3.

Step 3: Listen to what she has to say: To have a good conversation and bond with a woman, you must listen to what she has to say. If you listen to her, you’ll know what to say next based on what she’s already said. It’s called conversation for a reason.

Many men are always thinking about what to say next, or have a script in their head about what to say next. That’s not a conversation. . . that’s a bad screen game.

For example, I was standing with a couple of customers on a street corner in Williamsburg, Brooklyn. There was a woman standing there alone with a suitcase obviously waiting for someone to pick her up for a weekend getaway. So what did these two guys do? They watched and asked:

Guys: “So where are you going?”

Girl: “New Jersey.”

Immediately one of them says:

Guy: “New Jersey? I’m from Tampa.”

That’s not a conversation. That’s a guy who changes the subject to talk about himself. They don’t care about you from the start. The correct thing to say in this situation is this:

Guy: “Where in Jersey are you going?”

Girl: “The shore for the weekend.”

Now, in turn, the two boys can have his present in his head about the weekend and ask him about his trip.

Guys: “Where on the coast for the weekend?” or “Wow, how long are you going to stay on shore?”

If they listen and stop thinking about how to amuse her by telling her they’re from Virginia or Tampa, they’ll actually connect with her and have a whole conversation about the coast, vacations, and who knows where else the conversation might be. Let’s go.
Men complicate things for no reason.

There are no magic lines that you can say, but actually if men talked to a woman like they talk to their closest friends, they would have amazing conversations. Instead of constantly thinking about what to say, men just need to relax and listen to what women are saying. Do this, and like the magic you’re looking for, you’ll have great conversations. It is easy! Get out of the house, watch, react and listen!