She loves me, she loves me not, she loves me!

Today’s society has changed since you were a child. Marriage rates are at an all-time low and show no signs of rising. Being a strong, independent and single working woman is considered by many to be something all women should aspire to. Women are taught and encouraged to live life in a way where they don’t need to depend on anyone, especially a man.

Collectively, men, genetically programmed to be independent and the caretaker of women, are also single in numbers never seen before. Perhaps it is a function of fewer women being available, or perhaps because more men have decided that they don’t need a woman to be happy? Regardless, society is the system that has trained men and women to believe that they should remain single, be independent, and depend on no one but themselves.

If you fall into this category, there is something I would like to remind you of. Remember your childhood. Remember this because children are the raw talents of life and a true reflection of what the true needs and desires of human beings are.

8 Ball Ratio: Do you remember when you had your first magic 8 ball and you were alone for the first time together? Of course we do, we all remember that. What question did we ask? “When I grow up I’m going to marry xyz.” If the answer was Maybe or Ask Again Later, that means there was a chance! If the answer was Definitely Yes, it made us happy. If the answer was No, we put the ball down, shake it again, and pretend the previous answer didn’t matter (we must not have shaken it right the first time).

apple ratio: Remember when you ate an apple a day because it kept the doctor away? Every time we washed the apple in the sink, it came with a little apple stem that we felt the overwhelming urge to twist. As children we had fun with it and we created a game where we twisted the stem until it broke, and each turn of the stem represented a letter of the alphabet. Whatever twist broke the stem, and the corresponding letter with it, meant that we were going to marry someone whose first name began with that letter! Of course, we never got past the letter G, and we knew the test was flawed, but without fail, block after block, we ran the test anyway.

Flower Ratio: This is the one we know best, as it is the most famous child relationship test. She loves me, she loves me not. Every time you ripped that petal off the flower saying she loves me, she loves me not, you were trying to count up to see if you would end up in She loves me! When you got to the last petal, if it wasn’t She loves me, that was okay, because we would throw the stem of the flower and count the stem as She loves me!

When you are a child, love always wins. No matter what, love always wins!

The day society took over your life and told you who you should be vs. who you are, and then you changed to confirm, your perfect match walked by and you missed him. Don’t worry, because it’s not too late. You can still find love if you can get back to your pure human feelings about relationships, but you have to start looking in all the right places.

I’m not suggesting you buy a magic 8 ball, pluck dozens of flowers, or eat a hundred apples. I’m suggesting: if you’re one of those people who thinks it would be okay to be single forever, look inside your heart and remember the confused feeling you felt as a child when you landed on the petal of the flower She loves me, or Definitely. Yes magic answer. If you can remember how it felt, maybe you’ll start to see the light that society has put out and start pumping your brain again with the love and joy of the opportunity for a relationship.

Go find love. Go find your perfect match. Join a free online dating website and share this story with them. I guarantee that the person you meet was also looking for someone like you!