Get him interested by being less available

Do the words “play hard to get” give you goosebumps? Have you ever walked up to a guy and told him you liked him, only to end up feeling taken advantage of later? Is there a way to get him interested without being obvious or playing games? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are not alone. Read on for tips on how to get their attention.

The secret to getting a man’s interest is the old truism: you always want what you can’t have. When something is hard to come by, the mere fact that it is hard to come by makes it more desirable. On the other hand, when something is served to us on a silver platter, we often suspect that there must be something wrong with it. If it was so good, why is it available?

Well, men are like that. If you throw yourself at a man, you won’t get him interested. Instead, you are more likely to scare him. Therefore, the best way to play tough is to not “play” anything at all. It is being legitimately occupied with a full, satisfying, and interesting life.

An example will help clarify things. Let’s say you meet a guy at a party and you want him to be interested. You get along and things are going very well. You don’t have to “play hard to get” by walking away when you love the conversation, but don’t feel compelled to hang on your arm all night. Let yourself be distracted. Go talk to other people. Go flirt with other guys.

Talking to other guys will remind him that you are a valuable asset and that he had better step up. This will get him interested.

When the party is over, don’t throw your number at him, but make sure he has a good chance to ask you: a chance to say goodbye to you without everyone seeing what he’s doing. Let me call you. If he uses email or Facebook, that’s fine, but again, let him make the calls. Now there are some very important things you need to know.

If you make an appointment, keep it. Some women consider failing on a date their divine right, but high-quality men see this as low-class behavior. It won’t make him more interested, it will make him think you’re selfish.

But it’s perfectly fine to be so busy that it’s hard to fit it into your schedule. If you can’t watch it this week, do it next week. When you say no because you’re busy, be sure to communicate some enthusiasm so she doesn’t get the wrong message, but your life needs to be busy enough that you’re not sitting around waiting for the phone to ring. If he calls you on Thursday for an appointment on Friday and you’re busy on Friday, well, that just means he better plan the next one better. This will increase your interest.

When you go on a date, have lots of interesting things to talk about. The same full and vibrant life that keeps you busy should provide you with plenty of interesting topics, so there’s never a dull moment. The goal is to make your life sound so fun that he can’t help but want to be a part of it.

Do all that and you will get him interested in knowing more about you.