Father’s Injuries: Can a man be in an unlimited state if he had an abusive father?

If a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, he might realize that he is rarely comfortable standing his ground and asserting himself. As a result of this, it is likely normal for others to walk all over you.

You might be used to saying yes when you’d rather say no, and this will naturally take its toll on you. At times, it may mean that you will end up ignoring your own needs, and at other times, it may mean that you will end up being harmed in some way.

Your personality

She could see that he is usually calm and very happy to be there for others. Some of his friends, if they were honest, might say that he is a people pleaser and that he needs to stand up for himself.

On the other hand, his friends might just take advantage of him and not give him any feedback. If he has friends who are like this, it won’t be a surprise if he has a lot of resentment.

overwhelmed

But the chances are that you rarely get angry with others and will usually hide how you really feel. However, he could go further than this, as he can usually hide how he feels about himself.

If this is the case, he is going to carry a lot of emotional pain inside of him, and this pain is going to make it difficult for him to feel alive. In fact, you could spend a lot of time feeling very low and depressed.

disempowered

However, if you can’t assert yourself and therefore express who you are when you’re around others, how can you feel good about your life or about yourself? When it comes to your life, this can be seen as something you have to endure, not enjoy.

Because of how unfulfilling your life is, you may even have moments where you think about ending the day. If he sees a man who is happy and living a fulfilling life, he could be consumed with jealousy and perhaps envy.

What is happening?

At this point, it could be said that this is not a man who is in contact with his aggression. Based on how he lives his life, it will be like he doesn’t have any aggression or this part of him is just there once in a while.

He does have aggression though, so this part of him is always there. The problem is that he, for whatever reason, he hasn’t integrated this part of his being, so he can’t be fully in his power and protect himself from it.

Confusion

After realizing this, he might wonder why he doesn’t have a strong connection to this part of him. He may even believe that there is something inherently wrong with him and that it will always be so.

You could look back on your life and see that it has more or less always been like this. Consequently, in order to revive this part of him, he may believe that he will need to take something or increase his testosterone, for example.

back in time

What this can show is that his early years were not very enriching, this being a time when his father physically abused him. As for her mother, she too could have been abusive or facilitated what was happening.

So instead of having a father protect him and do what he could to make sure he felt safe and secure, it would have greatly undermined him. He couldn’t have done anything about what was going on, either.

Helpless

He would not have been able to defend himself; if he had, he would have suffered even more. Running away would not have been an option, as he would have felt powerless and completely dependent on his parents.

Therefore, he simply had to tolerate what was happening, and he would have gradually lost touch with his true self. The only way to handle the pain she is in would have been to disconnect from him, and in doing so, she would have lost contact with his body and, as a consequence, his aggression.

totally helpless

At this stage in his life, he would have been like an unarmed soldier sent into battle. And, because this stage of his life made him lose touch with his aggression/fighting instinct, as an adult he will be just as vulnerable.

In addition to being distanced from his masculinity, he may have a deep sense of violation. What happened will be over, then, but he will carry the past inside him and be out of touch with his aggression.

Awareness

What happened was not his fault; he didn’t deserve to be treated badly. Now that he’s an adult, he can do something with what’s going on and gradually reconnect with his body.

If a man can relate to this and is ready to change his life, he may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.