Family chores for kids, teens, and even dads

Helping around the house teaches everyone in the family the importance of contributing to a team. For children and adolescents, it also instills a sense of worth and competence, both of which help develop better self-esteem. When dads contribute regularly, it eases the load on mom, she shows she’s part of the team, and sets an important example for her kids.

Many parents do not make their children do regular chores until they enter their teens, and this makes implementing them much more difficult. Start early so children grow up with the expectation that chores will be normal. Little ones can help sort clothes, make the bed, and pick up toys, while older kids can vacuum, unload the dishwasher, and take out the trash. Around the age of twelve, children can handle almost all household chores, and when they’re old enough to drive, sending them out on simple errands is entirely appropriate.

It’s normal to find it difficult to implement regular chores for your children, but don’t let that stop you from doing it, especially with teenagers. Teens are often busier with school, part-time jobs, and very active social lives outside the home, making it easier for parents to put aside their regular household chores.

How to get kids, teens, and even dads to contribute to family chores:

Start early and be consistent. If children have grown up with the expectation that chores will be normal, they will meet less resistance along the way.

Lead by example. Show younger children exactly what you want them to do by demonstrating the task at hand and heaping praise on it when they’re done. Give teens specific instructions for tasks so they know precisely what is required, and be sure to thank them when they constantly remind themselves to fulfill their responsibilities.

Ask for help. Sometimes all you need to do is ask your spouse for help. Your partner may be used to you doing most of the housework, or they may not be aware of something that needs to be done around the house (even if it’s obvious to you)! Just ask.

Studies definitely show that children and adolescents who participate in family chores and take on family or community responsibilities are ultimately happier with themselves and their families, have better family values, higher self-esteem, and grow up to be more productive of society. Families that work together at home also have a better bond with each other. Cleaning the kitchen, weeding, or shoveling the driveway are great opportunities to chat about your day or life in general, while working with family members.